B.D.S

This week we talk about how growing up shaped everything—from our values and coping skills to our ideas about peace, purpose, and family. We look back at the people and places that raised us and reflect on the lessons that stuck.

We get into how barbershop culture taught us more than school ever could, the line between therapy and prayer, and how chaos, calm, and clarity all come in waves. It’s honest, funny, and full of the kind of talk that makes you think about where you came from—and where you’re going.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Setting the Tone: Heavy But Human
• 8:40 Banter, Viral Clips, and Culture Jabs
• 20:55 Weeks, Wins, Love, and Bills
• 33:45 PSA: Heat, Hot Sauce, and Regret
• 43:20 Pivot: Childhood and Mental Health

Transcript

Setting the Tone: Heavy But Human

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.

SPEAKER_03 0:04

The message behind saying the title of the Heavyweight Podcast is to be able to say that we can we can weigh in some heavy shit. What we're talking about is important from every aspect of it. It's a heavy weight. It's not just about physical weight, but the weight of things that that can weigh our minds. So I think it's dope that we can have this conversation.

SPEAKER_01 0:28

Go ahead. I'm not going well it might take an hour now. What would Dr. Umar say? Fuck that nigga.

SPEAKER_02 0:38

No, he didn't.

SPEAKER_00 0:40

No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_02 0:42

What? Whatever.

SPEAKER_00 0:43

No, you didn't. What number is this?

SPEAKER_02 0:45

I try to make uh these viral moves. Oh see, I'm trying to make us pop. 217.

SPEAKER_00 0:49

217. Hey, let him see it. 217. Okay. 217. Hey, do you think he got hands?

SPEAKER_04 0:56

Nah.

SPEAKER_00 0:57

He got kids, he don't take care of. How you know that? Because it's been all over the internet. Well, then fuck with me more. You won't you won't believe the internet? I don't believe I don't like Dr. Umar. He's weird. Well, y'all know I got this.

SPEAKER_01 1:10

This is dope. This is where we at. I I can't wait. I want to be in the hood of someone. Hey nigga.

SPEAKER_02 1:17

Y'all can't take me too seriously because uh I I learned this week that I'm I have autism.

unknown 1:22

Do you?

SPEAKER_02 1:23

Yeah, I took Tylenol.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

Oh, the Tylenol.

SPEAKER_00 1:25

Get the fuck out of here.

SPEAKER_01 1:26

Yeah, everybody did. And the fact that the fact that Trump.

SPEAKER_02 1:33

Yeah. A Centomanophine.

SPEAKER_00 1:35

Yeah, that he could get that. You gonna get up here and say Jasmine Crockett got a low IQ, but you can't say a cementophene. I'm like, nigga, you got to be kidding.

SPEAKER_01 1:41

Well, when it kept saying Tylenol, I was like, well, that's a name brand. So I could just take the Walgreens shit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

He finally looked at it and just said, Oh, that means Tylenol. Okay, yeah. Y'all know what I'm talking about. Shit.

SPEAKER_02 1:52

Breaking news. Tylenol gives you autism.

SPEAKER_00 1:55

Yeah, that's crazy as hell.

SPEAKER_02 1:57

Um, okay, skinny. That's a problem. All them years, my mom took Tylenol.

unknown 2:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:02

I guess the crack ain't to do with it.

SPEAKER_00 2:04

What's up, everybody? It's your girl Desda Diva, and welcome back to uh episode 217 of the heavyweight party. Hey, yay! Hold on.

SPEAKER_02 2:16

We back, bitch.

SPEAKER_00 2:17

We back. And as I mentioned, I'm your host, Desadiva. Back like two flats with a Cadillac. Not dealing with his nigga, this nigga today. Uh, you guys go ahead and introduce yourself for all those people out there.

SPEAKER_01 2:28

Uh, yes, is him. You just him? Yes, is him. Yes, is him? Yeah. I hope you're better than that goddamn movie.

SPEAKER_00 2:36

Yeah, you get more ignorant as the time like goes.

SPEAKER_01 2:39

I hope you better that damn movie. You watched it? No, I heard about it. Yeah, yeah. You should have known. He's like M. Night Shyamalan.

SPEAKER_00 2:46

Introduce yourself.

SPEAKER_01 2:47

Oh, damn. Damn.

SPEAKER_03 2:48

Damn, skip me, huh? Mukbang McFly. Oh, you just be eating.

SPEAKER_02 2:53

What are you mukbang? What'd you mukbang? Nigga eating. Just be eating. Mukbang, more eating.

SPEAKER_00 2:58

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 2:59

You.

SPEAKER_00 3:00

You.

SPEAKER_02 3:00

Oh. I'm just just call me nigga.

SPEAKER_00 3:04

Yep. Nigga. Positivity out the window. Yeah, you just said, fuck it.

SPEAKER_02 3:08

I try being positive. That's just for the birds.

SPEAKER_00 3:10

How was your week?

SPEAKER_02 3:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:12

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:14

Um, my week was cool.

SPEAKER_00 3:16

It's cool.

SPEAKER_02 3:17

Good week.

SPEAKER_00 3:18

Well, good week. Okay. Oh, man.

SPEAKER_02 3:22

Me and my baby celebrated uh it was our dating anniversary. You know, we won't want to celebrate everything. So we had our dating anniversary. Been together uh 24, 23. Long time, nigga. Two and a half decades.

SPEAKER_00 3:37

All right. All right. Congratulations. Shout out to Black Love.

SPEAKER_02 3:40

Somebody save me.

SPEAKER_00 3:41

I've had the same vagina for and you love every moment of it because you say something about it every goddamn episode. The shit be good. We we know shit. You done told us all. The shit be good. We all know.

SPEAKER_02 3:52

Well, sh never mind.

SPEAKER_00 3:53

How was your week?

SPEAKER_03 3:54

It was good. Uh mukbang fly here. Making sure you niggas see me eat.

SPEAKER_00 4:00

What's the last thing you ate? What was the last thing you ate? What's the last thing you ate that could be put on a plate?

SPEAKER_02 4:06

Oh. Oh, uh Well, you can set your phone to play and play. A protein bar.

SPEAKER_00 4:10

A protein bar. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 4:12

You want a donut?

unknown 4:13

No.

SPEAKER_02 4:14

I want white either.

SPEAKER_00 4:15

Uh yes, I'm or whatever the fuck you said your name.

SPEAKER_02 4:18

Yes, it's him.

SPEAKER_00 4:18

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 4:20

I don't know what this niggas on. Uh it was a good week. I just want to give a PSA to the niggas out here. Uh you telling if you're a straight man out there and you tell another nigga that they're not they're ugly or they're not attractive.

SPEAKER_02 4:39

He gay?

unknown 4:40

Probably.

SPEAKER_03 4:40

I don't know what your angle is because I don't care, or or no man should care that another man calls them ugly or thinks that they're not attractive because us as men. If I don't if you're if you're not who I'm appealing to, um I don't care. But that's just the PSA because you know, and I notice in our culture particularly, we tend to go, oh nigga, you ugly. I don't care if you think I'm ugly. Now, if the woman thinks so, then that's one thing, but other men call another man ugly. I just never understood it.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

Did somebody call you ugly?

SPEAKER_03 5:13

I've been called ugly for years, but never by woman. Go figure.

SPEAKER_02 5:16

Uh I thought you were gonna figure out. You just remind me of that uh Droopsy clip. Oh, you a nigga bitch. Yeah, yeah. Hold on, hold on. I found this guy on TikTok. I don't know his name, but he's serious. He he's the the self-proclaimed stud slayer.

SPEAKER_00 5:33

Send him to me.

SPEAKER_02 5:34

Yeah. And he goes around he catfishes studs and then he meets up with him. This is the funniest shit. And uh this nigga almost had his ass beat. Well, yeah. It's not Izzy.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Huh?

SPEAKER_02 5:48

Is it Izzy? No, it's not Izzy. Oh god. But the one time she was like, okay, fuck it. You know what? These girls, these girls piss me off anyway, but she but he but she let me know you the bitch in a relationship. He was like, whoa, whoa, no, no, no, it can't be that way. She's like, no, I'm doing the best. Then I said, ooh, nigga, you got the right one today. My bad, yeah, go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 6:09

Yep. Good week. Good week. Spent money, made money. Did you spend more than you make? Probably.

SPEAKER_02 6:23

Oh, I forgot this.

SPEAKER_01 6:24

I didn't drive Lucille much today this week.

SPEAKER_02 6:27

I made oh I it was also a good week because I made my last big installment to gymnastics this week.

SPEAKER_00 6:32

All right. Now for the year. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:35

No, no, I still got my monthly dues.

SPEAKER_00 6:37

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 6:37

Yeah, like the last? Nah. I mean, but like the fuck. The competition season. The competition season is now officially paid for. So now I gotta just save up for all those uh Saturdays of uh trips to these.

SPEAKER_00 6:53

Well, when is the competition season?

SPEAKER_02 6:55

Here they they start they started in January. Oh, okay, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_01 6:58

You uh reminded me, Graceland, she moved up. They moved up. That's what's up. She advanced pretty quick. We're like she's in gymnastics. That's what's up. They're like, oh yeah, she needs to move up. And I was like, all right, cool. Hell yeah. She's way different in gymnastics. She's like she's poised and serious. Yeah, she just knows.

SPEAKER_00 7:22

And is her competition season also in January?

SPEAKER_01 7:24

No, no, she's in like kinder fucking so she's starting out. Yeah, she's learning what to do, but like, oh, you all right.

SPEAKER_00 7:30

All right.

SPEAKER_02 7:31

You say that shit now until you got and then it starts to cost. And then and then you look up and she's doing walking on her hands down a hallway. Use your goddamn feet. Shit.

SPEAKER_00 7:42

No, let her walk on her hands.

SPEAKER_03 7:43

You getting your she you're getting your money's worth.

SPEAKER_00 7:49

Here's one more PSA.

SPEAKER_03 7:50

If you cherish your asshole or or your taste buds, don't do the last dab at Popeye's. That shit's hot. That shit was hot. And my dumbass on some blackened chicken.

SPEAKER_01 8:01

It's a sauce.

SPEAKER_03 8:02

They have the you can buy the glass. They have the hot ones, chicken, the sauce. I bought there's their dollar a packet. I put that shit on a piece of chicken. I ate a little bit. I was like, that ain't bad. So I put some uh uh across the rest of the chicken. And that when I tell you the after-effect, because it it it's it sicks up on you, it's a delayed reaction, and it fucked me up, and my stomach hated me, then my asshole hated me. So yeah, if you cherish your taste buds or asshole, do stay away from the last day. Sorry you had to do that. I can think straight. People have asked me questions. I couldn't, I didn't know I was getting asked questions.

SPEAKER_01 8:40

Oh, you were out in public after that?

SPEAKER_03 8:42

If my asshole starts hurting, I'm I'm in for the day. Oh, this is the initial reaction. That that initial when the heat kicks in, you that's why I get why they ask questions on the show. Because you can't think straight when you're thinking about heat. It's hot. Your lips, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:57

Now you know how I felt that blow up when I said, Oh shit, who does this? Don't tell me that like a bitch. Like, bitch, just don't look at it and flip this motherfucking table over.

SPEAKER_00 9:07

There's your week. I mean sorry. Are you happy to be back? Had somebody asked me a year ago, did I see myself sitting at a table with niggas explaining why their asshole be hurting? Uh when it's a good one.

SPEAKER_03 9:18

I mean, at least I mean at least it's fine.

SPEAKER_00 9:20

I would have never thought it was this, this it would have been this moment. My week was fine.

SPEAKER_03 9:24

In the world we live in, it could be from a multitude of reasons. Why is asshole hurts?

SPEAKER_00 9:28

Well it's fine. He don't get us canceled. My week was fine.

SPEAKER_03 9:30

Oh, we might get more viewers.

SPEAKER_02 9:36

Look here, man. That gay couple said they made uh 200,000 seven days.

SPEAKER_00 9:40

Who? OnlyFans. Oh, ain't nobody, ain't nobody in seven days?

SPEAKER_02 9:45

Seven days. I looked at my wife and said, look here, I know we got more.

SPEAKER_00 9:48

One more high-ass light bill away from one that sells my goddamn feet. So this motherfucker point.

SPEAKER_01 9:52

I'm about to try to do OnlyFans of just regular shit. Like cooking breakfast, they shit, they they already exist. They already exist.

SPEAKER_00 10:01

How do you what the what I don't understand is how do y'all know so well what's on Pornhub and what's on OnlyFans? Because it comes across the timeline.

SPEAKER_01 10:08

Yeah, I just I'm only where the fuck is your algorithm like? TikTok to uh exposes everything. It's not my algorithm. And it's a shit my wife you said to me. It's my search history.

SPEAKER_00 10:20

He said, bitch, I looked for it. Shit. I pulled it up. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 10:25

I sent you that video because the chick has stitched it. What what's just I said this video?

SPEAKER_03 10:31

You you call it dick tock, huh?

SPEAKER_01 10:33

Yeah, yeah, dick tock. Man, I told you I saw some people just start fucking. I was like, did you guys think that was gonna work? Like it was in the hot first of all, they had a lot of in their living room.

SPEAKER_02 10:45

Yeah. Like maybe we do some wild shit. I was like, why is this a thing? On TikTok? Yeah, wild shit. And then they just episode.

SPEAKER_00 10:53

We're gonna on this episode, we're gonna dive deep in our childhood and mental health and how our childhood shaped our mental health. Let's just go ahead and get started because we're not gonna be talking about dick talk for five whole minutes. We're not doing it. Pause. No ma'am. Um what let's start with you. Who was you and me? I don't know because y'all change our names up so goddamn much. I don't know who's who okay? Monk Bang.

SPEAKER_03 11:20

Watch me.

SPEAKER_00 11:25

Explain uh the environment to which you grew up. Where'd you grow up? Where what city? What's to talk about where you grew up?

SPEAKER_03 11:31

I grew up in St. Louis, Missouri, and east side of Riverside.

SPEAKER_00 11:36

And the fact that I'm just now learning that is is is like I I knew about Riverside Dub, but I didn't know that you were ever in, I didn't know Missouri had niggas. So what? Are you kidding me? St. Louis, nigga.

SPEAKER_01 11:50

Wow, yeah. St. Louis is nigga niggas.

SPEAKER_03 11:52

Uh City, shout out to Nelly and Nelly and and Jason Tatum and all that. That's where that's where I was.

SPEAKER_00 11:58

Oh, duh, with the St. Lunatics. Duh. Okay, bitch, put it together. Will it and hoe? Okay, I got it. My bad. Sorry, what's her name? Sexy red?

SPEAKER_04 12:10

Yeah, yeah. St.

SPEAKER_00 12:10

Lunatic. Oh, is that where she's from? Oh, God, that's probably why I blocked that shit out.

SPEAKER_03 12:15

When I found out that sexy red was from St. Louis and I listened to her lyrics, I said, this checks out. Yeah, you listen to the city.

SPEAKER_00 12:19

She's not like, okay, but listen. Sexy red make like good do your makeup before you go to the club music. Because that because that big ass over. That's a good song.

SPEAKER_03 12:31

I don't fight, I don't fight for respect, bitch. I fight for dick. I was like, she's from St. Louis, that checks out.

SPEAKER_00 12:37

Okay. Okay. I don't necessarily agree with her lyrics, but she made good, like get ready for the club music.

unknown 12:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:44

Yeah, I get it.

SPEAKER_03 12:45

When you proudly say, I don't fight for respect, bitch. I fight for dick.

SPEAKER_00 12:49

I think Cardi B has a line stimulant to like that too. So I love Cardi B. Look here. Ain't nobody listening. I'm in my Cardi B error of life. Okay. If one nigga act wrong, you just go get a new one, Cardi. And I feel you, Cardi.

SPEAKER_02 13:02

Because I'm gonna say that that goddamn I am drama album. That should that should do banging.

SPEAKER_00 13:06

From the beginning to the end. And you know every reference that Cardi is speaking about. Every single person that Cardi is speaking about.

SPEAKER_01 13:14

We're gonna get another one. Cause this nigga ain't staying either.

SPEAKER_00 13:19

No, he's not gonna be. This is not gonna be the one. It's okay, Cardi.

SPEAKER_03 13:24

She's the one she called her Bia diarrhea. Diarrhea is a couple of things. You could smell her before you see it. Smell it before you see it.

SPEAKER_00 13:33

Bia been trying to make a uh a clap back since that damn song came out. Can't get it together. She should have just closed her book, like, oh well. And her mouth.

SPEAKER_02 13:40

Apparently, if you can smell it before you see her, yeah, she definitely all I'm gonna say is whoever writing for Cardi, they did a great job.

SPEAKER_00 13:45

Yeah, this this album is is Cardi writes her own damn music.

SPEAKER_01 13:49

Hardy next door, right? I don't know. Probably.

SPEAKER_00 13:52

Yeah, she uh yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:54

Yeah, she's a good series.

SPEAKER_00 13:56

Yeah, she's fired.

SPEAKER_01 13:56

Oh my we did ask a question too.

SPEAKER_00 13:58

Yeah, I wanted to know. Just tell just tell me about where you where you grew up.

SPEAKER_01 14:01

Did you finish study? It was in St. Louis. We got to St. Louis. We got to St. Louis and went on the rails.

SPEAKER_03 14:06

It went on the rails, off the rails.

SPEAKER_00 14:07

So go ahead. He already answered.

SPEAKER_03 14:09

Is it just where I was from?

SPEAKER_00 14:11

Yeah, just where you from. You can talk about your environment. The question is um to tell where uh just a short where you grew up.

SPEAKER_03 14:20

Yeah, St. Louis. Oh uh, and and and Eastside, Riverside.

SPEAKER_01 14:24

I heard that way wrong.

SPEAKER_00 14:25

Okay, nigga, East River, don't live, nigga.

SPEAKER_03 14:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:28

Go ahead. Next person.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Everywhere. I grew up all over the end of the name. I think we moved like 10 times. Just say how you know. Yeah, all over. Riverside Rialto, fucking. Yeah, all of it. So I'm born in Virginia. Left in house two.

SPEAKER_03 14:45

Did you listen to that clip song differently?

SPEAKER_01 14:48

I'm from Virginia. We're in shit to do but cook. I didn't until I went.

SPEAKER_00 14:55

Did you eat at Wawa when you went to Virginia?

SPEAKER_01 14:57

Nah.

SPEAKER_00 14:58

I love Wawa.

SPEAKER_01 14:59

Nah, we went to uh uh Sheets. What the fuck was that? It's his little restaurant.

SPEAKER_00 15:03

Cookout.

SPEAKER_01 15:04

Nah. You know all the restaurants are.

SPEAKER_00 15:06

Yes, I loved living in Virginia. And guess what? I lost 150 pounds when I lived in Virginia. So, and I was eating every day.

SPEAKER_01 15:13

Well, the humidity.

SPEAKER_00 15:14

The humidity was fucking me up.

SPEAKER_01 15:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:18

I was also at peace. Yeah, that'll do it.

SPEAKER_01 15:20

I was at peace then. That'll do it.

SPEAKER_00 15:22

I was skinny as hell when I lived in Virginia.

SPEAKER_01 15:23

Nah, with the Chinese food out there was different. It's like sold Chinese food.

SPEAKER_00 15:27

That shit, and it come hot.

SPEAKER_01 15:28

And you gotta get it out the hood.

SPEAKER_00 15:30

Yes. And the iced tea that they give you with the Chinese food.

SPEAKER_01 15:34

Nigga might be dead, but you like, yeah, let me get that egg food. Young.

SPEAKER_00 15:38

Yeah. They whole setup is fire. They Chinese food is different. It's nothing like this Chinese food. It's weird.

SPEAKER_01 15:45

With gravy. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 15:46

You go to. Did it call them chopsui there or no?

SPEAKER_01 15:50

What the I don't eat the Chinese food places? No. Nah, I forgot that it's some.

SPEAKER_00 15:56

If you go in the right place in the hood, that shit just says Chinese.

SPEAKER_03 15:59

Yeah. Like if you're in the hoods in the Midwest and the East Coast, if you every other corner you'll see, like even watch Eight Mars something, it'll say Chopsui at every every Chinese food place says chopsui.

SPEAKER_01 16:11

I'm still trying to find bitch nigga. I gotta find one of those.

SPEAKER_00 16:17

We're gonna have to tape from one of those if we if we locate one.

SPEAKER_03 16:21

I'm still trying to figure out where they got the chicken for those wings, though.

SPEAKER_00 16:24

Where you grew up? Because I would love to know where the hell they found you.

SPEAKER_01 16:29

A different era.

SPEAKER_00 16:32

You definitely somebody pop up return.

SPEAKER_02 16:36

I grew up in O'Shagan. Uh uh LA, Carson, high desert.

SPEAKER_00 16:43

Okay, and I'm from LA and Riverside. I doubt it. You doubt what, nigga? The LA part. Nigga, what? I'm for sure. I can't. I don't want to tell y'all my granny still lives there, so I don't want to say we're out. No, wrong wrong number, nigga, and you don't know my granny. You said 49th. Wrong street and you don't know my granny. You said 42nd? That wrong street, and I ain't gonna confirm it, and you don't know my granny. And my granny watches the show. She would know you. She would say your name.

SPEAKER_02 17:09

Because my grandparents' first house was on 43rd in Central.

SPEAKER_00 17:12

That don't mean they know my granny.

SPEAKER_02 17:14

That's a lot of niggas in the area, especially back in the 30s.

SPEAKER_00 17:17

You ever eat at Taco Martin?

SPEAKER_01 17:18

Did you mean like the time or you mean the streets? Back in the 30s. I'm like, wait, what? Yeah, the times. Like 1930s? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:27

Yeah, my yeah, my yeah, my grandfather.

SPEAKER_01 17:28

Get on now. They can see more than 30 minutes.

SPEAKER_02 17:32

Madam. They can they can I think they came to Cali. Actually, you take the back. I think they came to Cali in the late in the late 40s.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Damn. Sidebars be hilarious. Oh that's just that's that's I picture Mo Bell.

SPEAKER_01 17:46

I push your horse, yeah. Just a cigar, get on now.

SPEAKER_02 17:55

Get to getting. Yo. I was raised by old ass country folks. We we know. It was very, very religious.

SPEAKER_00 18:04

We know. I love that for you. Um what were some major figures that shaped that uh that who shaped you to be who you were?

SPEAKER_02 18:13

My grandparents.

SPEAKER_00 18:15

We know you embodied an older spirit, which is always which is kind of a cool thing about you.

SPEAKER_02 18:22

I mean, well, they were like, I'm not they was like religious, though, but I'm not as religious as they were. I mean, I was growing up, I was raised in a church, but that part we wouldn't have gased.

SPEAKER_01 18:32

But I exit stage left. I was gonna say that usually is what happens. Yeah, we wouldn't have gased.

SPEAKER_02 18:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:41

Well, I got unchristian from going to a Christian college. So really, really? Really? Yeah, really. But why? Because some of the stuff here, like because when you dive deeper, you're like, oh, that don't track.

SPEAKER_00 18:55

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:56

That don't track on me, but that's cool.

SPEAKER_00 18:58

They they lost me when they told me that the all-knowing God needed you to sacrifice your firstborn child in order that he can know that you loved him. That nigga, you already knew that.

SPEAKER_01 19:05

That sounds some occult shit.

SPEAKER_00 19:06

You already knew that. But we're on a different route.

SPEAKER_01 19:08

Yeah, this might lose us some viewers. Yeah, sorry.

SPEAKER_00 19:12

But if anybody that views and watches my page, they know where I'm at with it, because I say it.

SPEAKER_01 19:18

Uh, influence, parents, family, whole family, because you know, uh, we did a lot together. Grandma for sure. My grandma was a different fucking type of human. Like 22 in the purse, but bring you inside and look at the case. She's Madea. Cook for you. My favorite.

SPEAKER_00 19:37

Your name Granny was Medea.

SPEAKER_01 19:38

Oh no, she was little, she was like a little ass lady. I remember we were somebody, some essay cut her off, and then these niggas start arguing with her for some reason, and she ain't back down. I was like, I don't think they know what grandma has in the purse.

SPEAKER_00 19:50

Like Granny saying that, give you but what about you?

SPEAKER_03 19:55

Uh my dad in his barber shop on 14th Street in Park. And uh it was because he always had like different characters that would um come into that barber shop. And I feel like growing up that kind of shaped me to kind of understand uh where was that?

SPEAKER_01 20:14

Was that over here?

SPEAKER_03 20:15

Right across from right across from Lincoln High School.

SPEAKER_01 20:18

Where the cookie puzzle at right now.

SPEAKER_03 20:19

Yeah, where yeah, right there in that in that area. Um growing up, that was my most of my childhood was being in that barber shop with him and uh watching him work on his feet for like 14 hours. And then uh I remember there was a guy that used to work there, his name was Sam, and I remember Sam used to always say some shit, and he used to always do this thing where he would like rub his nails together, and that was like a stimulant, like like he said it would help stimulate nail growth or hair growth. And I remember the last time I saw him was he was dressed like Superfly.

SPEAKER_01 20:53

Oh, that's dope.

Weeks, Wins, Love, and Bills

SPEAKER_03 20:54

And because it was Halloween. Okay, and he uh he never made it back to the shop. He died that weekend. Oh man, that's that's not where I thought the story was. Me neither. You just remember him being like that the old pimp, and he used to have this weird tick with his chin. But I just remembered like there were so many different characters that came in that barbershop, and um that that shaped me like wholeheartedly because it made me feel like there's all these different characters, and then I wasn't I was very anti-social, but it it it made me kind of realize how many different people type of people there are, and and then they're all of uh uh uh people of color, so it was dope to see growing up. Was the character it was like when so when I watched barbershop it has a special place with me because I remember what it was like to be in a barbershop like that, but you can also differentiate what's real and not real from Hollywood, because you would be like, that's not how a barbershop operates, but at the same time, the things that they did take from the barbershop, I'm like, it resonates with me because I watched, I literally grew up in the barbershop watching.

SPEAKER_01 21:59

That still trips me out. Like, because my dad followed your dad wherever, whichever shop he went to. So I'm like, all this time I was in there and you was in there. Like, it took us that long. No, he would take me. Well, he yeah, but he would take me to get my hair cut.

SPEAKER_00 22:14

You got your hair cut by his dad. And that's right.

SPEAKER_03 22:17

But they was cool. There's a lot of that that's the the interesting history is when we met, we found out that our dads knew each other. When Tejor, when I talked met Tejor, I found out him and his brother, Brendan, used to get their hair cut by my dad. So it was like a lot of people in the east side or that went to north, a lot of them were cool with me because they knew my dad. So that's why that the whole term, oh, you just do the barber sign. Yeah. Because they all knew my dad at some point.

SPEAKER_00 22:40

I've been in public with you and heard you tell somebody that, and they'd be like, Oh, yeah, like I know who that is. So I was like, Okay, man, I heard that. Not your daddy, the famous barber.

SPEAKER_03 22:49

Yeah, he was he brought the uh the jerry curl to uh to St. Louis because he used to he got the jerry curl out here and he took it.

SPEAKER_01 22:59

Yeah, I mean, I remember when I did the S curl too and S curl. I had a it's it's a Jerry curl because I had I had an S curl too, but when your hair gets longer, it's a jerry curl.

SPEAKER_00 23:11

You had an S curl too?

SPEAKER_01 23:13

Oh yeah, I was walking around fucking uh uni high school or uni middle school.

SPEAKER_00 23:18

Just split yourself.

SPEAKER_01 23:24

You went to uni? Yeah, I went to uni. Me too. Nick, are you hosting or getting permission?

SPEAKER_00 23:30

I'm doing both, nigga. You the feds? I'm doing I'm doing both, okay? Okay, you just you just jealous because you didn't grow up in our neck of the woods.

SPEAKER_02 23:38

I'm not I'm not at all.

SPEAKER_00 23:40

Thank you. Thank you. He's jealous. He's jealous.

SPEAKER_02 23:42

I grew up in the suburbs. I'm fine.

SPEAKER_00 23:44

He's jealous, he's jealous.

SPEAKER_03 23:45

I could play in the street.

SPEAKER_00 23:47

Okay, whatever.

SPEAKER_03 23:47

Oh I could play in the street too, nigga. You just might get chased by uh a doberman or a rock while I grew up in the street.

SPEAKER_00 23:55

Like like we're not gonna be all day.

SPEAKER_03 23:57

I visited those streets. I didn't I didn't live in those stuff.

SPEAKER_00 23:59

We're not gonna be all day. My my mystery. My my figure that that um shaped my my life, my upbringing was probably my grandfather. May he rest in peace because he definitely was um more so of the father figure. And then um my mom had a had a boyfriend whenever I was like one. And nobody remember that shit. You was one. My mom had a boyfriend when I was one. He came into my life and has been fathering me since.

SPEAKER_04 24:28

God damn.

SPEAKER_00 24:29

And he shaped like him and my mom broke up when I think I was like fucking six or seven. I was young when they broke up, and he never stopped being there for me. Oh, that's nice. So yeah, like he is good man. Uh he's amazing. Like amazing. But you had an example.

SPEAKER_01 24:43

Oh my god, Maurice. Uh God damn it, Maurice. I digress.

SPEAKER_00 24:52

I mean, you say that we all make decisions. I mean, I'm sure your wife had amazing examples, but she still went that direction with you. I mean, we all we all make choices. And here she are, she's in a great space now. Now, but I mean, we're not gonna remember her. Anyways, he was a great man, and he still is a great man. I still talked, I mean I talked to him a few days ago. Um, and he shaped a lot of of you know why who I am today. And then I have a cousin, an older cousin, he's like my mom's age, and shout out to Papa, that's my guy. And um he is the most like toughest, like, we'll probably knock your ass the fuck out. Sweetest loving person I ever made in my life. And he shapes a lot too. Like, like he he's the guy that a message uh, me and my sister on on Valentine's Day, like, happy Valentine's Day, I love y'all. Don't take no fucking sucker shit off these niggas. Like, he's amazing. So those are my three influences that shape my life. You got anything you want to say, buddy?

SPEAKER_01 25:56

Where the fiends at. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, pubs.

SPEAKER_00 26:02

Whatever. Give me one one life lesson that you uh carry with you today. From just in general, from one of the people that influenced you. Let's go, let's go in that direction.

SPEAKER_01 26:18

Compassion. Be compassionate. That's the lesson uh from grandma. Because she was tough, but like I said, uh, whenever I was there on the weekends, there would always be some Jehovah's Witnesses that she would because she was not, but when they come to the door, come on in. Feed them, talk to it'd be like three hours. And she didn't change nothing, but it was always taught me how it would be welcoming and all shit like that. So I think I take a lot of that, the compassion part. Cause it's fine to be tough, but I think it's harder to show that part to people that you don't really know.

SPEAKER_00 27:02

We need her in my neighborhood because the Mormons keep coming to my house and I'm fucked up and told them my name. So then John goes to the door and be like, like, no, she can't, she's not gonna come to the door. They be like, Desiree.

SPEAKER_01 27:13

Oh, I did that with the Mormons because they was fine. They sent some fine ones to the door when they're gonna be able to do it.

SPEAKER_00 27:18

No, they didn't, because they don't even make fine Mormons. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 27:23

I seen them in Mobile and I was thrown because I was like, wait a minute, what are they doing over here? Like, but they were here.

SPEAKER_01 27:30

Well, I was in it's a really white neighborhood, so they probably were surprised when I opened the door. They exist.

SPEAKER_00 27:39

Let's do a quick, rapid, uh, rapid fire round.

SPEAKER_01 27:43

Did anybody else answer? I feel like I just oh you shit.

SPEAKER_00 27:46

The way you give me answers, you over here trying to thot with the goddamn Mormons. Go ahead, answer. I did.

SPEAKER_02 27:53

What was the question?

SPEAKER_01 27:54

Oh, is you his life lesson or life.

SPEAKER_00 27:56

We'll need his life lesson.

SPEAKER_02 27:57

He gotta You can't control what they say, you can only control what you do.

SPEAKER_00 28:01

That's true. I fuck with that.

SPEAKER_01 28:03

Very true.

SPEAKER_00 28:04

I fuck with that. These are not life lessons that I actually use, but these are the two that stick in my head that my great-granny told me. Okay, you sitting on the check that you're asking cash at any time. Shouldn't have told me that at five, but she did. And you need to sleep without your draw so your coochie can breathe. Well, shouldn't have told me that at five, but she did. And oh, and you always need to wear clean draws out the house. I do use that one because if you get in a car accident and they gotta rip your clothes off you, you don't be out here fucking embarrassing her with no dirty ass draws.

SPEAKER_03 28:31

Well, to be fair, you could get in a car accident and shit yourself.

SPEAKER_01 28:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 28:37

You could shoot yourself in the car accident, and then you still got dirty draws and a clean underwear.

SPEAKER_01 28:42

Yep. Yep. I was this many days old.

SPEAKER_02 28:48

Hate y'all.

SPEAKER_00 28:50

Can't stand y'all.

SPEAKER_02 28:53

My wife told my daughter that shit, and I said, Look, I you do that shit in your room. You get my bed, you put some draws on.

SPEAKER_00 28:58

Yes, of course. When she shouldn't have been with her dad, but in her room, you women ain't supposed to have on bras. We just is just really quick. Women ain't supposed to have on bras and draws. Because we we need to hang and breathe. Period point five.

SPEAKER_02 29:10

You gotta keep that pH balanced.

SPEAKER_00 29:13

And the best way to do it is to make that coochie you heard the girl say, let that coochie breathe. And that was about the most informative information of that song.

SPEAKER_01 29:21

She's a she's uh she's a saint.

SPEAKER_00 29:23

She was correct. Let the coochie breathe. Okay, let's do a rapid rapid uh Kevin answered. Rapid fire. Damn. You didn't answer?

SPEAKER_03 29:30

No, I was just gonna say I thought you did. You started with Kevin. Um Damn.

SPEAKER_00 29:38

Listen, I've been out of my mind and I told y'all that for I got here.

SPEAKER_03 29:41

My quote is just always what my dad says, you know what you need to do, so do it. That's it.

SPEAKER_00 29:47

I like that. That's simple but powerful. I fuck with that. And yeah, y'all try to tell my my heart, baby, because I told y'all before I got here I was nuts, and y'all was just like bring your ass anyway. So obviously, you like me nuts. Um

SPEAKER_03 30:00

Um we're gonna that's what he took? Yeah, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 30:04

Is that right?

SPEAKER_03 30:05

You like me nuts?

SPEAKER_00 30:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:07

He's a he's a pirate.

SPEAKER_00 30:08

You like me nuts? Is that a leprechaun? What was the first nickname that you ever had?

SPEAKER_01 30:16

I'm not telling y'all that shit. That shit. I got too many fucked up nicknames from the family. One of them was Mudhead. I was like, why the fuck are you calling me Mudhead? That's funny. Edy, I mean, them niggas used to call me, and they said I was bad as fuck. So you call me Edie, I mean that motherfuckers were just killing people. Like, god damn, Edy Edy. That's what they would say. How cute. Dink, I think my first nickname was. Yeah, because I'm like, now I'm triggered and upset. Y'all call me. I think Dink was the first one. And that just kept going.

SPEAKER_00 30:52

What do they call you now?

SPEAKER_01 30:54

Uh well, apparently my glass, I named myself with my glasses, and I forgot. It's funny daddy. Because the glasses were like, what do you need, funny daddy? And I was like, what the fuck?

SPEAKER_00 31:09

Nah, I'm finna do this with you. Nickname.

SPEAKER_02 31:11

Uh I only got three nicknames.

SPEAKER_00 31:14

Okay, run them.

SPEAKER_02 31:15

Um my aunt started calling me Reese, so my family calls me Reese. My mom calls me Bud. Um, and my my uh my favorite sister-in-law, my favorite sister calls me Faye. We call we call each other Faye.

SPEAKER_00 31:28

I heard um our our cousin call you Reese.

SPEAKER_02 31:32

My cousin calls me Reese. Our cousin. I don't know why she said that.

SPEAKER_00 31:39

Because that is our cousin. Ask him. Ask him. Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 31:44

I'm gonna tell you the same thing I told my wife, just because your family ain't interested.

SPEAKER_00 31:47

That my I'm a very interesting my family lit. I got a very interesting family, but I just that is our cousin.

SPEAKER_02 31:53

You have Dominique this.

SPEAKER_00 31:55

No, my family's super lit. Our cousin. Thank you. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 31:58

It was Panda Andy.

SPEAKER_00 32:00

Why?

SPEAKER_03 32:01

Uh it was an it was my sister. She said it was from the song. Uh was it Mandy Pandy or How You Doing that song from the 80s? No.

SPEAKER_01 32:11

I don't remember.

SPEAKER_00 32:12

Oh, we're in my heart. I do you do.

SPEAKER_03 32:15

Panda Andy or Mandy Pandy or Andy Pandy or whatever. It was Andy Pandy. Some variation variation. So it was man, it was Panda Andy or Mandy Pand. Yeah, Panda Andy.

SPEAKER_02 32:24

That's it.

SPEAKER_03 32:26

Over the years I've had other ones. Uh one I gave myself was Anwan Nicarachi.

SPEAKER_00 32:31

Oh boy.

SPEAKER_01 32:33

See, I'm I don't live by the rules because I think all of my nicknames, I just gave them to myself.

SPEAKER_03 32:38

Like, not my the kid one, but so yesterday I was talking to Andreas and I said, uh, because he was telling me about ninjas, and I was playing uh Assassin's Creed, and I said, you know, you come from a long lineage of uh ninjas. And Zulu was like, don't tell him that. I said, Yeah. He's oh she's like, all right, so what's the clan? I was like, uh the Nicarachi clan. We uh we we we practice the uh the art of neganuity.

SPEAKER_00 33:03

Not a better thing to be at school telling me.

SPEAKER_03 33:08

She's like, so what's your uh your special to? I said, the art of bullshit. And then she was like, that doesn't work. I said, have you seen Beverly Hills Cop? It'll get you out some shit. You so goddamn okay.

SPEAKER_00 33:20

Don't say that out of school, baby. I mean, if you if you do it right, baby, don't say that at school. She little cute self.

SPEAKER_02 33:29

Oh my god. My favorite nickname is uh was the uh uh Flovia Sickfried.

SPEAKER_03 33:34

Flovia Sickfried, that still exists. He has to come out on occasion, so oh my god.

unknown 33:38

Oh, excuse me.

PSA: Heat, Hot Sauce, and Regret

SPEAKER_00 33:39

My my nicknames were Duck. I have one cousin that calls me Duck because it was my first word. Um, and then my my granny calls me Desiree B. And I think it's what the B stand for. I think it's because one of my cousin's friends used to call me that, and he was a blood.

SPEAKER_01 34:00

Oh, damn. So I think we was going to be like, she banged you. Yeah, from the youth.

SPEAKER_00 34:05

I don't I don't I don't do any banging. Um and then I have a cousin. She could, I don't know why she couldn't say Desiree, but she but she but she calls me Des T. And so some of my family calls me Desire T. My sister calls me Dominique calls me Sussie. And everybody else, my dad is uh the one I mentioned, um, raised me, is the only person that calls me Deszy, and everybody else calls me Des. And all you niggas call me Des the D.

unknown 34:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 34:32

I guess I say is it maybe Des Desert because you might have the T.

SPEAKER_00 34:38

You know, I don't know why that lady called me that. Um, I wish she stopped, but she's gonna call me that probably till forever, and that's fine. That's fine. Because she was a premium. We call her Wee Wee, and she don't want to be called Wee Wee. She don't want to be called Wee Wee. So as long as she's calling me Desert T, then her ass is Wee Wee. And that's that. That's fucked up. But she killed going with Wee.

SPEAKER_02 34:58

My nieces, they they they they can never say Uncle Reese. And they were, you know how kids say they were fucking up, so they were calling me Uncle Greasy.

SPEAKER_01 35:05

Ah, hell yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:07

They didn't fuck that up. They had it right on the motherfucking head on the nail. I feel cute.

SPEAKER_01 35:10

KJ. KJ, too.

SPEAKER_00 35:12

That's uh KJ, is your middle name start with a J?

SPEAKER_01 35:16

Junior.

SPEAKER_02 35:17

He's a junior.

SPEAKER_00 35:18

Oh my god, nigga. How the fuck I'm supposed to know he's a fucking junior. I don't read that wall. That's so sad. I don't look at the stuff on that wall because I'd be sad.

SPEAKER_04 35:32

That's nice.

SPEAKER_00 35:33

That's only what I only noticed that your dad was up there. That's I didn't even know. I and I'm the rest of them niggas. I just noticed it because I know his face.

SPEAKER_01 35:42

Because you had to mess it with you. I'm messing with you.

SPEAKER_00 35:44

And then I noticed your wife's is this her uncle? Yeah. Because she told you to put the nigga up there. Remember, you had said it on the podcast.

SPEAKER_01 35:51

He was up there.

SPEAKER_00 35:51

So then I looked over there, but I didn't read the other one. So I didn't fucking know that you was a junior. That's nice to know.

SPEAKER_01 35:57

Yeah, I'm a junior. Oh. I don't know how that works, though, now. You would still be a junior.

SPEAKER_03 36:03

Or do you become like like a graduator?

SPEAKER_00 36:07

Yeah, y'all are so okay. What was your favorite childhood meal? That's a real question. Cause no. What was your favorite childhood meal? Nigga, all of them.

SPEAKER_01 36:14

Uh childhood meal. All of them.

SPEAKER_00 36:17

Pizza. I like the taste of history from um El Cholos. That was my favorite childhood meal. And a and a virgin pina colada.

SPEAKER_01 36:23

It might still be the same. Shakies is a tiger. Yes. The tiger sauce. The fuck is tiger sauce? The sauce. I got a gallon in there. I could bring it out here.

SPEAKER_00 36:34

No, it's okay.

SPEAKER_01 36:36

My favorite.

SPEAKER_02 36:37

You want the meal or the dish?

SPEAKER_00 36:39

You can give me the meal.

SPEAKER_02 36:40

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 36:40

You can give it a dish.

SPEAKER_02 36:41

Anytime my grandfather got up at three in the morning to light that barrel smoker, I knew it was about to go down.

SPEAKER_01 36:46

Oh, yeah, I gotta do these ribs. So, uh y'all have ribs and spaghetti?

SPEAKER_02 36:51

Tomorrow. I'll be back. Um I would say probably some some ribs, but my grandma would make me my um my yams with my marshmallows.

SPEAKER_00 37:01

You like yams and marshmallows? You wait inside.

SPEAKER_02 37:04

I love marshmallows.

SPEAKER_00 37:05

Don't say nothing else about white folks.

SPEAKER_02 37:06

I love marshmallows.

SPEAKER_00 37:07

What the fuck are you talking about?

SPEAKER_02 37:09

I love marshmallows.

SPEAKER_01 37:10

That ain't just no white shit. It is with the marshmallows on the top. You must not have been through driven through the south.

SPEAKER_00 37:16

I just don't like the marshmallows on the top. You just don't like them.

SPEAKER_02 37:19

I like a lot of food niggas do it. Now I'm thinking about salmon croquettes and biscuits. Yep, salmon croquettes. Salmon croquettes are fire. We now we're just talking about food.

SPEAKER_00 37:27

What was your favorite childhood meal?

SPEAKER_03 37:29

Straw hat pizza.

SPEAKER_01 37:31

Oh, yeah, they pizza me. It's still there, too. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:33

Because the shit is good. You want to go after this?

SPEAKER_01 37:35

You know what? You can't have no carbs right now.

SPEAKER_02 37:39

I'll drive.

SPEAKER_01 37:40

Did I tell you how much? He was making salmon croquettes in the city. I do want pizzas. I can't have pizza. He makes salmon croquettes in the hotel.

SPEAKER_02 37:48

Wait, wait, hold on. Hold on. How the fuck do you make salmon croquettes?

SPEAKER_01 37:51

Because it had the hot plate, but I was laughing because we went up and the whole floor just smelled like fish. And I was like, oh, that's my family. That's us.

SPEAKER_00 38:00

Okay, last question in the rapid fire, because we done went way past what the hell time we were supposed to be in keeping. Anyway. What was the strictest rule in your house?

SPEAKER_01 38:10

The strictest?

SPEAKER_00 38:12

All of them. My mom was strict as hell. Damn.

SPEAKER_01 38:16

It's pretty tough as Lechkey.

SPEAKER_00 38:18

I had no freedom.

SPEAKER_01 38:21

That's it. I feel like they can get on top. I had no freedom in sh.

SPEAKER_00 38:25

Yeah, I would. My mom was strict as hell. I couldn't breathe. I think my own. She wished the fuck I would breathe.

SPEAKER_02 38:30

I didn't really have it. I didn't really have any strict rules. I would say the only thing I'd say is that you couldn't lie. If you if you got caught in a lie, that's it was it. Like everything else can be explained. If you're honest about what you did, we can work through it. You're not gonna always get your ass beat unless it's egregious. But if you lie, you're getting your ass beat just for lying.

SPEAKER_01 38:47

That is a big that was a big one.

SPEAKER_02 38:48

That's why I tell the truth now. That's why I said don't ask me.

SPEAKER_00 38:53

So incredibly strict when I was growing up that I like begged her to not be as strict with Dominique, then she let her ass be foot loose and fancy free. First of all, calm down.

SPEAKER_02 39:01

So not too much of my girl though.

SPEAKER_00 39:03

No, Dominique is amazing. I I say it every time. And chance like every time I get a chance to, that girl is amazing. That girl got a good ass job and is in school and graduates in the spring. Okay, go beep.

SPEAKER_02 39:14

Congrats.

SPEAKER_00 39:15

Yeah, shout out to Dummy. Is she adopted? Is she what?

SPEAKER_02 39:18

If she adopt me, I'm gonna say adopts you.

SPEAKER_00 39:20

I'll have her ask her big ass boyfriend back.

SPEAKER_03 39:23

Yeah, that was a big one. That was the rule that you can't open the door.

SPEAKER_00 39:26

Don't open the door for nobody. I wasn't able to give a rule because I wasn't gonna pause my game anyway.

SPEAKER_02 39:33

If you had a key, you could get in.

SPEAKER_00 39:36

I wasn't supposed to open the door for nobody either, but one time they came to my house to some kids came to my house to fight me, and so I just let Sarah next door open the door. Because that technically I didn't open the door.

SPEAKER_02 39:47

And that's why you are who you are now.

SPEAKER_00 39:49

So I can so I can fight Amber. Oh gosh. Oh well, okay.

SPEAKER_03 39:55

Um mine was don't bring any shit here, because if anything goes down, I know you were behind it because you don't follow nobody. So that was the only way I could get my ass whooped. Was if I brought any shit home or any bullshit to happen, he knew that I was either behind it because I wasn't a follower. So that was it. I was pretty much free reign.

SPEAKER_01 40:20

He used your leadership against you?

SPEAKER_03 40:22

Yeah, but he I was free. I didn't have uh that's not against him.

SPEAKER_01 40:24

That's like, nigga, if there's some shit, you did it.

SPEAKER_03 40:29

But I didn't have like a strict be home curfew type shit. It was free reign. It was just if there's any shit that goes down, I know you're behind it.

SPEAKER_02 40:40

Yeah. I had to be home before dark, that's it. But I never had a bedtime.

SPEAKER_01 40:45

Yeah, I don't know if I did because I was watching motherfucking. Well, that was your personal. Everybody tell people tell me it's a great show, and I'm like, I never would know. I would never know. When I heard that, soon.

SPEAKER_00 41:00

So time to go.

SPEAKER_03 41:01

Mary Well Children's Off. Time to go.

SPEAKER_00 41:03

And speaking about mental health, because we're gonna be wrapping up here soon. In speaking about mental health, I'm gonna ask you three quick rapid fire questions. Sure. Okay. Um I just want you to just answer with just the one word, okay? Damn. Start with you. So you can hurry up and be done. Um, yes, it's me or uh No Maurice. Oh, yes, is him? No, Maurice. Melitho. Um therapy or prayer?

SPEAKER_02 41:28

Therapy.

SPEAKER_03 41:30

Therapy. Therapy.

SPEAKER_00 41:33

Therapy as well. Journaling or venting?

SPEAKER_03 41:37

Venting. I'm journaling. I feel better venting.

SPEAKER_02 41:42

I do both. Not nigga.

SPEAKER_01 41:46

She said one word. She only said one word. Okay. Both. Okay, say less.

SPEAKER_00 41:52

I do both. Okay. Now, do you thrive better in calm or chaos?

SPEAKER_01 41:59

Neither.

SPEAKER_00 42:01

Neither.

SPEAKER_01 42:02

You know what? Honestly, I'm like chaos. I'm like storm. Oh, chaos. One word. You can say which. Go ahead. One word. Like the hurricane, like a eye of the storm.

SPEAKER_02 42:13

I find the cha the chaos makes me focus, the calm makes me overthink.

SPEAKER_00 42:17

Yeah. I thrive in in chaos because that's everything has always been chaotic. But I'm trying to condition my mind to be comfortable and calm.

SPEAKER_04 42:29

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 42:31

Shut the fish.

SPEAKER_03 42:32

Yeah, chaos will just have to be mine, just default.

SPEAKER_01 42:37

You know what?

SPEAKER_00 42:38

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 42:39

Yeah. That was a funny thing with comedy. It's like it gets so good at uh creating out of pain that when you're happy, you're like, damn, I gotta figure out where can I create some mm-mm.

SPEAKER_00 42:52

Okay, let me ask you these ones legacy or lifestyle?

SPEAKER_02 42:55

Legacy.

SPEAKER_00 42:57

Legacy.

SPEAKER_01 43:00

I mean, I don't know. Lifestyle, because that's gonna create your legacy.

SPEAKER_03 43:04

Yeah, lifestyle would have to concur.

SPEAKER_01 43:09

That's what I said, lifestyle.

SPEAKER_00 43:10

Okay. Um, and then do you look at yourself as the mentor or the student?

Pivot: Childhood and Mental Health

SPEAKER_01 43:18

I'm just a nigga. Yeah, I was gonna say the same thing. We had the same wavelength on that.

SPEAKER_00 43:24

We have two niggas in the building, or do we have a third?

SPEAKER_01 43:26

I was like, Jay-Z, Lord, I'm a nigga first.

SPEAKER_03 43:28

I would I love to say I'm the student, but I'm usually the mentor, so I would love to be the student.

SPEAKER_00 43:34

I I think I'm the student. And I think I thought I was the mentor, but then I realized I had a lot of shit I still need to learn myself. I know you're not sure. It depends on what you're in, though. Do you do you do you know, you know what?

SPEAKER_01 43:47

Welcome back. You know what's coming, huh? Uh wealth or peace? Peace. Peace. Peace. Oh, wealth. Well, no, because we're not talking money wealth. We don't know what the wealth is of wealth. It could be wealthy in peace.

SPEAKER_00 44:07

I want the wealth because I I swear to god, if I had money right now, I'd be the fuck up out of here on the street. You mean riches? I'd be out of here.

SPEAKER_01 44:13

Because you could be wealthy in love as well.

SPEAKER_00 44:15

I don't want that.

SPEAKER_01 44:16

You don't want love?

SPEAKER_00 44:18

I'm I'm cool.

SPEAKER_01 44:20

Damn, huh? Give me give me the money. I like it. That's how you get rich.

SPEAKER_00 44:26

I'm I'm cool.

unknown 44:27

I'm cool.

SPEAKER_01 44:29

I'm gonna go with yeah, wealthy. Or not wealthy, uh wealthy, yeah. That's what I said. Sorry. What'd you say? I said peace. I said wealth.

SPEAKER_00 44:40

Okay. We're gonna we're gonna wrap up, but before we do, if you could give advice to your 10-year-old self, 10-year-old self that you feel that they could carry on and be successful today, what would that advice be?

SPEAKER_02 44:56

Beautiful big kitty woman don't fall off the sky.

SPEAKER_00 44:58

Get the fuck.

SPEAKER_01 44:58

Yeah, there ain't nothing I could tell 10-year-old Kevin. I was E D, I mean. Apparently, I'm just bad.

SPEAKER_03 45:08

What advice?

SPEAKER_01 45:09

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 45:10

That at around 18 or 19, there's gonna be a crazy chick that wants to hang out with you. Stay the fuck away from her.

SPEAKER_01 45:16

Oh, you're gonna give him four warnings. Warnings, though.

SPEAKER_00 45:26

Try not to laugh. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_02 45:28

Um I would just tell them that uh happiness doesn't always equal money. So the pursuit of money doesn't won't make you happy. Yeah, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 45:40

But that's hard for me because it's like 10. What the fuck am I comprehending?

SPEAKER_02 45:45

A lot.

SPEAKER_00 45:45

A lot is gonna grow fast. Yeah. I would tell myself you?

SPEAKER_01 45:50

10-year-old me, I know what I was doing.

SPEAKER_00 45:52

So probably something bad. Uh I would tell myself to um to take your health seriously. Physically and mentally. Especially mentally. The older you get, shut the fm. The older you get, um the harder it is to get either of those on the right track. So I would say start now taking your health seriously, maybe play some sports. Yeah. And and uh, you know, take that very, very seriously.

SPEAKER_02 46:23

What sports would you would you have played?

SPEAKER_00 46:26

Um in school, to be honest with you, I wanted to be a cheerleader. My mom didn't let me.

SPEAKER_02 46:31

And sound like you should have been boxing.

SPEAKER_00 46:33

I I wanted to box. This like true story, I wanted to box, and I and I told my mom this when I was in junior high school, and my junior high school principal was like, if you let her box and she came to school continuing to hit all the students, we we you she going to jail. So don't even let her. So my mom kept saying, I'm not finna give you new ways to hit the kids. So she wouldn't let me box. Dominique wanted to box too, and I think that was the biggest dick's big the biggest disservice that my mom ever did for me and Dominique. I know I heard it too. I said it, okay? I heard it.

SPEAKER_03 47:07

But biggest you got you guys heard dick service? I did. That's a good one.

SPEAKER_01 47:13

No, the biggest dick service.

SPEAKER_00 47:17

Okay, look, now we know what's what's currently on my mind. Biggest disservice that my mom could have ever done because I think it would have given us both um more balance. I I think if I knew that if I hit somebody that my my hands were gonna be like I was I was gonna jail, I probably wouldn't hit nobody. So just shit.

SPEAKER_03 47:41

You could have said would you say it would be purping dick?

SPEAKER_00 47:46

Shut the fuck up. Okay. All right. Okay, put your fucking tongue in park. Okay. I'm a rapper.

SPEAKER_03 47:53

What can I say? Muckbame McCoy.

SPEAKER_00 47:55

Yeah, I think she should let us box, both of us, both of us, because now that I'm I don't know which one of us is worse. I think Dominique is calmer than me now, and it used to be vice versa, but now I think she's calmer than me. But my mom should have definitely let us both box. Don't put nothing negative on my girl daughter. Ain't no, I never say anything negative about Dominique. Like, I I tell you, for like the the first time in like forever, me and Dominique, we bickered like a couple like a few months ago. And I know you was wrong. I was, and I'm not even, I'm not, I I never front on my sister. I do not care. I was wrong. I was wrong. I'll never front on her and make it seem like she did something she didn't do. So we we what?

SPEAKER_03 48:35

I was gonna say just don't let your past dick take your future.

SPEAKER_00 48:38

You get stuck by dick. How about that? Damn, how about that? A backpack for you, nigga. Um about that. Um but we couldn't even stay mad at each other for 10 minutes. No, let's hear a nigga bitch. Yeah. Yeah. Uh okay. Leave me alone. Thank you very much. What I'm saying is we we couldn't even be mad at each other for five minutes. Like, I I love my sister. I don't ever say nothing negative, but don't do shit negative.

SPEAKER_03 49:09

It's the I feel like this place is becoming a dictatorship.

SPEAKER_00 49:12

Oh my God.

SPEAKER_01 49:13

Be competitive.

SPEAKER_00 49:15

Be competitive. I like that. I like that.

SPEAKER_01 49:19

Well, I probably would play baseball if I was fucking competitive. I was just I would just out there.

SPEAKER_00 49:24

And you're tall, so I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 49:26

Like once I figured out I'm an athlete, I was like, damn, they just let me waste all that shit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 49:31

You know the best rappers? Those that learn the dictionary.

SPEAKER_00 49:36

Well, we do want to thank you guys for watching another episode of the Heavyweight Podcast. As always, like, subscribe, share, comment, all that shit. And thank you. And peace. Cause I'm tired. Whoopty-doo. Okay. And if Dennis is tired, whoopty fucking doo. Whatever. You need to add that whoopty-doo to the little thing, cause that shit is hilarious, nigga. That trip. Are we out?

SPEAKER_01 50:02

Weopy. That's rent. You know, that's that's moofy room. So click flex.

SPEAKER_00 50:14

Until next time. Well at you.